well scottie never beamed me back up so im stuck here for the moment. today i was thinking about gift giving. how we spend money or perform deeds for those we care about in life. some gifts last for a short period of time ie: flowers, food. other gifts last for a long time ie: jewelry, cars, clothing.
when you give a gift to another most of the time there is an intenton behind it. it could be done for marriage or deeper friendship or possibly to gain the heart of another.
in the BDSM lifestyle my thought is that one of the greatest gift a submissive (sub) can give her Dominant (Dom) is herself. giving of herself fully without question or fears. for as a submissive she allowed oneself to trust in another knowing that Dominant has her best intrest at heart.
as for a Dominant the gift he gives his sub in guidance, acceptance, his inner strength to name a few things.
for a sub not to submit to the will of her Dom she is not really submissive. not to say that she has no voice in the matter. but the final decision always and should be held by the Dom. if you want to disagree with things he has determine to be a course of action. do so with thought and with the understanding that he will listen and then makes his decision.
and for a Dom he needs to have his sub be aware of what she had consider to be a limit and show her that with time and effort that limit can be restablished on another level. provide and give direction to the sub having her realize the beauty she has within knowing she has pleased her Dom.
so as just explain these could be gifts also. but one of the biggest gift a Dom can give his sub is a "collar". a collar being a choker, anklet, bracelet or a broach as an example. she accepts and wear this as her comitment to him. and she has the foresight to know that its not lightly given to any sub. but also has the knowledge to know that it can easily be taken away. so a sub will maintain her submission towards him and follow his guidance. for she does not enter into this agreement and takes his collar only to change direction once the collar has been given.